May 31, 2008

We make decisions every day – should we splash real milk in our coffee? Or for health’s sake suffer through the fat-free substitute that tastes like liquid chalk? Should we ride Metrobus or drive to avoid the intersection that draws a gang of loud and unruly passengers? I guess it depends on the day, because when you’re hot (or cold) and late for work, you don’t want to share seats with a woman whose megaphone voice describes in detail the beat-down she’ll give her supervisor - today. You want to keep far away from the disheveled and clearly disturbed man dragging a red, hazardous waste garbage bag and begging everyone to “gimme a dollar.” All jokes (and the Georgia Avenue bus) aside, these are small-fry decisions.

How about the big-fish decisions - those choices based on either fear or faith. According to one spiritual leader, everything we do is based on one or the other. I’m not referring to the folks who confuse faith with an unwillingness to accept reality. The special people who believe that if they drive out of the dealership with that Mercedes, the money will come. Not because they have a job, are looking for a job, or even want a job. They’re quick to pull out the Biblical “lilies of the field,” forgetting that God helps those who help themselves. Or that manna from heaven is a joint effort. And let’s not forget the well-meaning friends and family whose decisions, no matter how misguided, are all done in the name of love.
In From Dusk to Dawn, Ayo had a life-changing decision to make. I wish I could have offered her this advice. Take the gut-check test; the one that whispers “you know you wrong (or right).” If your stomach churns or clenches, don’t do it. If that warm and hopeful feeling is bolstered by rational thinking and good sense, then go for it. Keep on going - “see what the end will be.”

Speaking of the end, today marks my last post for the Savvy Sista's blog. I've enjoyed it so much! Thanks to the Sistas for inviting me, and thanks to all of you who read my posts and shared your thoughts.


  1. Niambi, I truly enjoyed reading this bolg all week and today's put the icing on the cake.


  2. Hi, Tina: I'm so glad you enjoyed my posts because I certainly enjoyed writing each one. The week was great - everyone put such thought into the responses.

  3. Niambi... when I grow up and I am going to be like you... The articles were wonderful!

  4. Niambi -

    i enjoyed the blogs this week. You gave us food for thought. And also allowed me to realize the blessing in life.

  5. Take the gut-check test; the one that whispers “you know you wrong (or right).” ...Keep on going - “see what the end will be.”

    So true and thanks for enlightening, informing, inspiring, empowering and encouraging us via this week's blog series. It was absolutely wonderful and very well done.
    To the SS crew...thanks for hosting Niambi as part of the Against All Odds Tour!

  6. Always go with the gut feeling, woman's intuition, voice in the back of your head; whatever it is that you call it don't dismiss it. More times than not it is the right thing to do.

  7. 'Cilla: Thanks, sis - we want to be like each other :)

    Beverly: I'm glad I "provoked some thought" (lol) Thanks for reading and for your own insightful responses.

    Yasmin: Thanks for those wonderful adjectives, and as always, many thanks to you for being the "Conductor" of the tour!

    JC:I agree: When all is said and done (or not) it all boils down to the still small voice

    And thanks again to the Savvy Sistas