Jun 13, 2008

I was checking out the site What About Our Daughters when I came across a post that talked about this article that a brother wrote on The Top Ten Reasons Why It’s Hard to Date a Black Woman. Here is the top ten:

1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.

2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.

3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.

4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.

5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.

6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.

7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.

8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.

9. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in white America.

10. Black women do not cater to their men.

Now, you know God must be really working on me because this list didn't piss me off the way it would have a couple of years of ago. This list is more of an indictment against the brother that came up with it then it is against black women. I feel sorry for the brothers that can't appreciate the strength of a black woman. Men like the ones in this article aren't anyone I would want anyway. Their disdain for black women tells of the insecurity that is inherent in them. This is something these brothers need to work on.

I refuse to let a man make me feel bad for going to college and becoming self reliant. I refuse to let a man make me feel bad for becoming the strong independent woman that my mother raised me to be. If my degree in Chemical Engineering intimidates you then that is your problem and not mine. I have all the love in the world for my brothers, but I refuse to lessen myself in order to make you comfortable with my achievements. If you can't love me as I am then you can't love me at all. Besides, the last time I checked, having a strong black woman (Michelle Obama) by your side can make you the next President of the United States of America.

Ladies, tell me what you think about this topic.

1 comment:

  1. I am soooooo sick of sorry, weak-ass men. Everything this "man" listed as negatives are in ALL actuality positive characteristics that he would probably want his daughter to possess.
    1. How can I make a man feel under appreciated? If YOU know YOUR worth, no one can take that from you.
    2. Aggressive? I call it being open and honest. As adults we should be able to say what we want, even when it comes to the opposite sex.
    3. Wonder if he wants his daughter weak and dependent in her dealings with men.
    4. A real man is not intimidated by a woman that takes an equal approach at making a relationship work.
    5. Yes, I have high expectations, not only for myself but for my man. Everyone SHOULD want to do better. Most gold diggers I've heard of aren't black women. Check out the wives of professional athletes.
    6. I will have a bad attitude if some lame-ass man is out of pocket.
    7. I plan on remaining FABULOUS until after they put me in the ground. Has this guy ever seen Jerry Springer? All the TPT he's shown America and this lame-ass dude will still impose such solely on black women.
    8. Not gonna touch it, especially in regards to oral sex. Better yet, I will. What is really going on with all these black men that CAN NOT PERFORM WELL at oral sex?!!?!?!!?!!!?!?!?!!?!!!
    9 & 10. No, I won't cater to a lame-ass man because he is not worthy, and yes, I do have a low tolerance...for silly, trifling-ass men and their bullshit.
    This dude is a joke, just like any other black man that agrees with this folly.
    A strong-ass man makes all the difference when dealing with a black woman. A strong-ass man knows the worth of a black woman and appreciates ALL that she brings to the table. He knows that he can accomplish soooooo much more BECAUSE she can carry some of the load BECAUSE she is so aggressive, strong headed, independent and able to control their household.
    Again, this "man" is a lame-ass joke. Wonder how he feels about his mother?