Sep 21, 2008



My heart ache for these women and their children. I know some of us are going to act appalled as though this has never happen to us, but we shouldn't stand in judgment. Colorism is something that has been plaguing the black community since slavery. Seeing women like this is nothing new.

I, for one, was afflicted with the ailment of colorism (not to the extent of these women and I never bleached my skin). I am a brown skin sista who has always been surrounded by black people, but it took me until the age of 22 (six years ago mind you) to actually see dark and brown-skinned women as beautiful [so obviously I didn't see my own beauty]. I had to make a concerted effort to de-program myself from the thinking "If you're light you're alright, if you're brown stick around, but if you're black get back." I had to stop watching BET and pick up a copy of Essence magazine (the black and white cover of Alek Wek was one of the most beautiful covers I had ever seen). This wasn't something that was consciously taught to me; it was more of a subconscious message that was propagated through the images that I saw on television and the cover of magazines.

So as much as we like to tout how far we have come as a race, we still have work to do. We as a people come in a kaleioiscope of beautiful colors and we have to learn to appreciate the beauty that each of us represent.

8 comments:

  1. I was on that show and trust me that particular girl with the bleaching her childen thing was really really really disturbing, even for me!

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  2. Most of this is done to impress men, and when you have black brothers telling you things like"i'd rather see 12 black women die then to see one white women with a runny nose", what type you future and image are they setting for us?
    "Many people would say "the just hate themselves, but then you have artist like Chris Rock, coming on TV making Fun of black women, and mocking them, Its like what are you suppose to do?

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  3. I never knew so much about skin bleaching. Actually I went to a dermatologist back when my mother had money and she prescribed 6% solution of bleach my scars. She told me that there was not a laser treatment available for black women with scars. I was extremely disturbed my the lengths these women go to in order to look pale. I still try to stay out of the sun and I wear makeup to look lighter. I'm darker than my younger sister and I used to think that was why my mother preferred her over me. Even if I were as light as my sister I doubt that I would be smarter or more successful. I think that if someone were to act discriminatory towards me it would be because of my black natural hair. How many black women are there that don't accept natural hair? There is a lot of self hatred in the lives of many black people. Thank you for posting this because it has caused me to think more in depth about the subject.

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  4. light skin woman wouldn't understand.I'm in night grade and every one says I would be prettier if I was lighter. Even my friends and it really makes me sad because I'm so dark.I actually cry about this every once in a while.

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  5. Me and my best friend was watching that the other day on t.v. i thought that was crazy. And they looked silly like that. I mean cmon now is it that serious!! If u was pose to be light you would be right? I mean thasts what I figure. That was ...making me mad. And then they are bleaching their kids. Another thing who is Tyra to talk about inner beauty and natural beauty and be your self and what not when she is covered in make up and tracks and what not???? Thats not natural the Maybaleen (how ever you spell it) and Revlon and all that crap. But I get mad when I see people doing stuff to change their appearence. Carmax and thats it! that's all I need. I accept the skin i'm in and it works for me so if someone don't like it I figure they can shove it!! And the side effects of that stuff is crazy. It's worser than dealin with the "problem" in the first place.People can and have died for that. And who's to say it's going to even turn out right??? I can't even imagine. And then are putting your child in danger! Who does that. Some of these shows disturb me so much and this was 1 of them.

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  7. Hi, I am an african 28 year old man living in Spain. Its shocking to me to see how black americans are so complexed about their origins. Don´t you know that all african people over the world, not just in Africa, but also, those living in Spain like me, Germany, France, Italy, who were raised in na white european environment without black role models, we all used to look upon african american celebrities, so, just to explain how admired you black americans are by us. Here in Barcelona, even white folks, spanish, I mean, want to look black, even more than real africans living here in Barcelona, Paris, Berlin etc... I, on the other hand, cannot imagine how hard must be to be living in Aemrica being black and dark skinned, since as far as I can see, the corporate world rejects blacks in ways that somebody living in Europe could not imagine, since we don´t have the same situation around here. Anyways, my family and I, we came to Spain back in 1987, when there was no other black families around, and it felt very weird for me growing up around white kids, specially white girls who wouldn´t consider me as a date because I was different. However, it is one thing when you are a kid, those things hurt but family is always there to comfort you, but when you are an adult, and women consider that you are ugly because you are not light skin, when you go to a job interview and the interviewer wont consider your application over that one of a light skin candidate, and when you, as an adult, are told that your children, if they are dark skinned, are discrimined at school, it just feels like we are back in 1965 when black people didnñ´t have civil rights. Its just crazy, is like white to blacks racism but this time, they separated black people into the acceptable ones and the rest. there is one question I would like to make ¿do you think that if Barack Obama was black dark skinned, with an african look like Wesley Snipes, would he be the US president? would he even be considered as a candidate? what I see from the distance is that there is a fake black progress, like Halle Berry winning an Oscar and stating that she was the first african-american to win it, I would like to see Whoopie Goldberg, or Gabrielle Union, or any of these so called "chocolate sisters" win an oscar portraying a dark skinned beautiful role.

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  8. It is like, picture a white guy whose friends circle is all black people. He works with black people, his wife is black and his entire environment is black, so he is the only white element in his environment. In an ideal society, he would remain white and be alright with being white and his friends, his wife, his colleagues would respect that and would never try to change it. In the same way that there are different animals in the jungle, you won´t see a lion trying to turn a zebra into another lion just because that way he would feel more comfortable. However, we are living in a world that is the other way around. First of all, this is a very competitive world, those with the best atributes, those who are more beautiful, more handsome, stronger, smarter, faster, those who have more friends, are on the top, while the rest is cornered. In an office, women gather in the coffee break to talk about how cute and sexy this man is, how much they would like to have sex with him, and viceversa in the case of men. This element has a very strong influence on people, because what looks good, what tastes good, is appreciated by everybody, while what is ugly, is rejected and ignored. We all have our self-esteem, we all want to have the good stuff and envy those who always had it. If we picture all of those elements regarding to race and skin color, voila! that´s what you get, self-hatred,low self-esteem and stuff like that. Of course, all of this madness is as a result of this society but magazines, corporate media, tv, hollywood and all of that, should make a real effort to change that perception of black people being dumb and ugly. I am sure that it would have a stronger power than any race equality law that ordinary people don´t even heard to talk about.

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