Nov 16, 2008

First let me preface by saying that I have yet to enjoy the throes of motherhood, but hopefully one day I will embark on that path. And when I do walk that path, I would hope that I love my child with the same unconditional love that my mother continues to bestow upon me.

The passage of Proposition 8 in California has given me a lot to think about in the past few days. Although the proposition doesn't directly affect me because I am neither gay nor do I live in California, it has cast a shadow on my life. As I watch people turning to the streets in protest I can't help but feel empathy for them. These are people's children and yet they are being denied one of the basic right's that was given to us at the founding of this country: the right to the pursuit of happiness.

So as I look at all these faces in those massive crowds I can't help but to think about their mothers and fathers. What kind of dreams did these parents have for their children when they were born? Because believe it or not every parent has a dream for their child. Did these parents dream that in the greatest country in the world their children would be relegated to second class citizenry? Or did they dream that the promise of this country would actually be real and not just some slogan that a politician came up with? As I look at those faces in those crowds I can't help but wonder what if that was my son or daughter whose right to marriage had just been denied. How would I as a parent feel about that? I can tell you now that it would break my heart.

I like to believe that if I had a child who turned out to be gay I would be as vigilant for them as I would be for my heterosexual child. After all he/she would still be my child and I would demand nothing but the absolute best for him/her. I would stand by my child and demand that he/she be treated fairly and equally.

So when I think about things like Proposition 8 I don't view it as a religious issue or a gay vs. straight issue. I don't view it as a "can they please just use another word besides Marriage" issue. I view it as a fairness issue and what it is that I would want for my child or someone else's child. I view it as a pursuit of happiness issue in that everyone has a right to pursue that thing that will bring a glimmer of happiness into their life.

So, who are we to deny my child that right?


  1. Some times in life we all feel like we're getting the short end of the stick. We all feel like we have right's. " Yes we do" There's some things in life we most except, and I know if one of my kids turn out to be gay, I most deal with it and love them weather I agree or not. But we most remember the words in the bible will never change. It is okay to agree to disagree. But it is not right for woman to marry woman or man to marry man.

  2. Despite your religious beliefs marriage is a contract and always has been. I will never understand how some people can be so small minded to think that everything revolves around their religion and their beliefs. Now gays aren't asking for permission to force your church to perform a ceremony and such but they have the right to be married in civil ceremonies like the rest of us (and religious for those denominations that will allow it). Gays should be allowed the right of marriage bestowed on every other couple in society. By the way if you want people to live by your bible so much why don't you move somewhere and start a theocracy. Oh and in case your wondering I'm straight.

  3. I respect your beliefs to the up most. No, I am no where near being small minded. And I'm not asking anyone to believe as I do. And I'm not wondering weather you are straight or not. I will love you just the same. Once again, It is good to agree to disgree