Apr 30, 2008

Splackavellie - Pressha

Rome - I Belong to You

Chris Bender - Who Will I Choose

Tell me I didn't take you back with these joints. I'm sitting here at my computer screaming right now.
When I’m in the grocery store check-out line I usually scan the magazines that are strategically placed there to grab your attention, but I never buy them because more often than not they consist of salacious tabloid gossip. But the cover of the April 28, issue of Jet magazine caught my eye. Raven-Symoné was posed on the cover looking grown-up and beautiful. I decided to buy it so I could read the featured article on her entitled “Voluptuously Fabulous.” Let me tell you, I was so impressed. In addition to being talented, grounded, and a wonderful role model to young girls, this sister is secure with who she is and loves her body. On the subject of body image and the need to be thin in the entertainment industry, she says, “It’s not a concern of mine. It’s a concern in society in general. When I look in the mirror and see how voluptuously fabulous I am, I can’t even worry about it. I am just fabulous.”

I thought, WOW!! It took me thirty–plus years to realize what this 22-year old phenom has already embraced. And to be perfectly honest, there are still days when I struggle with my body image. I’m a work in progress, learning to appreciate my thick thighs and big behind. But being healthy is what’s most important to me now. In this age of mid-drift bearing, booty-shaking, breast implant having, show-what-you-got, in-your-face, body obsessed culture, it’s easy to get caught up in the hype. And for black women, the images that are flashed across magazines and television screens often don’t reflect our beauty.

So sisters, tell me how you feel about your body and what issues you’re struggling with, if any?

Trice Hickman, author of Unexpected Interruptions

Apr 29, 2008

Here are snippets from Obama's press conference about Rev. Wright (courtesy of Huffingtonpost.com):

I'm outraged by the comments that were made and saddened by the spectacle that we saw yesterday. I have been a member of Trinity United Church of Christ since 1992 and have known Jeremiah Wright for almost 22 years. The person I saw yesterday was not the person I met 20 years ago. His comments were not only divisive and destructive, but they also give comfort to those that prey on hate and I believe they do not accurately portray the perspective of the black church. They certainly do not accurately portray my values and beliefs. If Reverend Wright thinks that is political posturing on my part, he does not know me very well.

I have already denounced those comments that have come out of these previous sermons. I gave him the benefit of the doubt in my speech in Philadelphia, explaining that he has done enormous good in the church, has built a wonderful conversation. They are a wonderful people and what attracted me has always been the ministries reach beyond church walls. But when he states and then amplifies such ridiculous propositions, that the U.S. government is involved in AIDS, when he suggests that Louis Farrakhan represents one of the greatest voices of the 21st century, when he equates the United States' wartime effort with terrorism, then there are no excuses. They offend me, they rightfully offend all Americans, and they should be denounced. That is what I am doing very clearly and unequivocally here today. (Source)

So what do you think about Obama's press conference?
Rudy Giuliani's priest has been accused in grand jury proceedings of molesting several children and covering up the molestation of others. Giuliani would not disavow him on the campaign trail and still works with him.

Mitt Romney was part of a church that did not view black Americans as equals and actively discriminated against them. He stayed with that church all the way into his early thirties, until they were finally forced to change their policies to come into compliance with civil rights legislation. Romney never disavowed his church back then or now. He said he was proud of the faith of his fathers.

Jerry Falwell said America had 9/11 coming because we tolerated gays, feminists and liberals. It was our fault. Our chickens had come home to roost, if you will. John McCain proudly received his support and even spoke at his university's commencement.

Reverend John Hagee has called the Catholic Church the "Great Whore." He has said that the Anti-Christ will rise out of the European Union (of course, the Anti-Christ will also be Jewish). He has said all Muslims are trained to kill and will be part of the devil's army when Armageddon comes (which he hopes is soon). John McCain continues to say he is proud of Reverend Hagee's endorsement.

Reverend Rod Parsley believes America was founded to destroy Islam. Since this is such an outlandish claim, I have to add for the record, that he is not kidding. Reverend Parsley says Islam is an "anti-Christ religion" brought down from a "demon spirit." Of course, we are in a war against all Muslims, including presumably Muslim-Americans. Buts since Parsley believes this is a Christian nation and that it should be run as a theocracy, he is not very concerned what Muslim-Americans think.

John McCain says Reverend Rod Parsley is his "spiritual guide."

What separates all of these outrageous preachers from Barack Obama's? You guessed it. They're white and Reverend Jeremiah Wright is not. If it's not racism that's causing the disparity in media treatment of these preachers, then what is it?

I'm willing to listen to other possible explanations. And I am inclined to believe that the people these preachers go after are more important than the race of the preacher. It's one thing to go after gays, liberals and Muslims -- that seems to be perfectly acceptable in America -- it's another to accuse white folks of not living up to their ideals.

I think there is another factor at play as well. The media is deathly afraid of calling out preachers of any stripe for insane propaganda from the pulpits for fear that they will be labeled as anti-Christian. But criticism of Rev. Wright falls into their comfort zone. It's easy to blame him for being anti-American because he criticizes American foreign and domestic policy.

If Rev. Wright had preached about discriminating against gay Americans or Muslims, there probably would not have been any outcry at all. That falls into the category of "respect their hateful opinions because they cloak themselves in the church."

But one thing is indisputable -- the enormous disparity in how the media has covered these white preachers as opposed to Rev. Wright. Have you ever even heard of Rod Parsley? As you can see from what I listed above, all of these white preachers have said and done the most outlandish and offensive things you can imagine -- and hardly a peep.

If the disparity in coverage isn't racist, then what is it? (Source)
We’ve all been there before. In the beginning the relationship starts out with endless hours spent talking on the phone, texting each other, and sending frequent emails. He’s blowin’ up every means of communication available in order to reach you. He whispers sweet words into your ear, takes you to nice restaurants, treats you like the Nubian queen you are and shows open affection for you. You spend so much time together that you find yourself frequently late for work in the morning. And the cherry on the sundae is that he’s puttin’ it down between the sheets! This brothah is on his game. Then suddenly the calls become less frequent, the texts are few, and your email inbox hasn’t flashed his address across your screen in weeks. It becomes harder and harder to pin him down for a night at the movies, let alone an evening of the romantic intimacy you once shared. Hours and sometimes days go by before he returns your messages. You ask him what’s wrong and his answer is, “Baby, I’m just really busy.” Did I mention that his work schedule hasn’t changed.

The reality is that it’s not practical to expect that you’ll maintain the exact same level of intense fire and passion that you experienced in the very beginning of your relationship. As things progress and you get more comfortable with each other, a different rhythm and flow settles in. But when he’s MIA, and always has an excuse for why he can’t see you or be reached, what does that mean…is he really busy or is something up? Just yesterday I was talking to a brothah about this very subject and he told me that a man will make time for the things he really wants to do. So I want to pose the question to you, what does it mean when a man tells you he’s too busy, and how would you handle the shift in the relationship?

Trice Hickman, author of Unexpected Interruptions

Apr 28, 2008

This morning I had a co-worker (female) who confronted me with a very interesting dilemma. She has been dating a young man faithfully for about seven months now. She says, she’s very happy with this man to the point that she thinks she’s in love with him. The time they spend together is overwhelming. They’re constantly out of town on trips, he spends night after night at her home, and she has even met his mother (which says a lot to me). Not to mention, she says that the sex is off the Richter Scale. So, to her this is something that is very special; however, there’s one small problem. He’s in a relationship with another woman (yeah you read right). If she questions him about the other relationship, his reply is always the same: “Why are you so worried about her when you have all my undivided attention?” She says that he told her he needs a little time to sort things out with this other woman. Somehow, she does believe he is telling the truth since the majority of his time is spent with her.

Ladies, please be straight and or honest with ThePlayer. If you found yourself in her shoes, how would you handle this situation? Would there be an ultimatum put into place? If so, what would it be? Or, would you just go along with the flow, and see how or where this thing leads? After all, you’re getting all the TLC, and reaping the benefits of being the girlfriend. I will come back and give my personal opinion on what this brother might be thinking, but right now I want to hear from the ladies about this situation. Talk to me ladies.

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Rev. Wright spoke to the National Press Club today. If you missed his comments you really missed a treat. He said that his speaking out wasn't about him, but moreso in defending the black church. He said that he felt that the mainstream media was playing "the dozens" in it's attack on the black church. Basically what it boils down to is that he felt as though his mother was being attacked when the media consistently decided to level attacks against the black church that his mother loved and worshipped at.

Here are some key things that he said during his comments:

On Patriotism, Louis Farrakhan, and the Black Church

There will be a replay of his comments at 12 pm on CNN (I believe) it maybe CSPAN. If I find out something different I will let you know.

Oh, and if you missed Dr. Wright's speech to the NAACP on yesterday. Please click here to watch it in it's entirety.
Good Monday Everybody!!

It's Monday, the first day of the week. Some say the way you start things off is the way they will end up. In many cases that's true, while in others it just depends on the circumstances. When I think about that concept, it brings to mind the issue of race in America. The history of black folks in this country has been a precarious one from the start.

We were brought over to these shores as indentured servants, were made into slaves, then eventually set free. We started out as the "N" word, then went on to become Negros. Next we transitioned into being Colored, then proudly stepped up to embrace our Blackness, before finally graduating to become African-Americans...ain't that somethin'? Yes, black folks' history in America has been a dicey one, and if you look at what's going on now in the race for the Democratic presidential nomination, "race" has taken us back to some deep rooted pathos that were planted centuries ago...have we ever really left that place?

In my debut novel, Unexpected Interruptions, the main character, a savvy young sister named Victoria Small, becomes involved with two men--one black, one white, both determined in their pursuit for her affections. As Victoria's relationship builds with each man, issues of race and class come bubbling to the surface. When I look at what's happening in the contest between the Democratic presidential candidates; Senator Barack Obama (D-IL) and Senator Hillary Clinton (D-NY), race and class are bubbling to the surface there too, and is dividing many voters. As much as America prides herself on her diversity, opportunities and progressiveness, there is a shameful legacy that has never fully been dealt with that is now resurfacing.

Gwen Ifill stated it well Sunday morning on Meet The Press, when she made the comment that many people acknowledge race, but don't want to address racism. Racism is a practice. It's a machine that is exercised on an economic and social level. It's something that America, particularly white America, doesn't want to have a frank and honest discussion about. But it's coming up in the campaign and can't be avoided. What message will North Carolina and Indiana send on May 6th? Do you think that America is ready for a black president? I don't think that we'll end up like we started off, but where are we going? Let me know your thoughts....

Trice Hickman, author of Unexpected Interruptions

Apr 27, 2008

So the weekend has come and gone so fast. I swear time is really getting away from me. This weekend was a pretty eventful one for me. Here are some of the things that happen this weekend that I think should be highlighted:

1. The interview of Dr. Jeremiah Wright on PBS had to be the best part of the weekend for me. Watching his interview with Bill Moyer gave me more insight into the man and not this caricature that mainstream media (MSM) had made him out to be. If you missed the interview please click here to watch it in it's entirety.

2. Oh, and how about the DNC is trying to bring it with their new ad against John McCain. I got goosebumps just watching it. Maybe the DNC is going to prove they have a little fight in them and not just rool over and play dead when the Republican Attack Machine comes a knocking.

3. Barack Obama's interview with Fox News was also a highlight this weekend. Although I didn't watch the interview on Fox News (my television does not go to that channel) I did manage to watch it on The Huffington Post. It consisted on the normal drivel that one would expect from a Fox News interview. The entire first segment was spent on questions about Dr. Wright, flag lapel pins, and William Ayers. I guess the people who lean to the right are not concerned about the never ending gas prices, the economy, the fact that it cost you an arm, leg, and half an ear just to buy a gallon of milk. Nope. The people who watch Fox News are more concerned with whether or not Obama wears a flag lapel pin because it is a flag lapel pin that is going to keep your job in this country...SMH.

4. Another highlight was the fact that Barack Obama turned down Hillary Clinton's request for a Lincoln/Douglas-style debate. This is the type of debate that doesn't have any moderators. Well, Obama turned down her request. Me personally, I am all for debates, but how many more debates do these two need to have. They have already had 20 debates. I you don't know where they stand by now then you are never going to know.

5. There was an article written in The Nation (on of my favorite magazines) by 60's Radical, Tom Hayden, that takes a look at Clinton's 60's past and her hyprocrisy for attacking Sen. Obama over his association with William Ayers when she herself share a similiar background. In his article, Why Hillary Makes My Wife Scream, Hayden examines Hillary's radical past and the Hillary of yesterday would not be looked upon favorably by the Hillary of today. It made for a very compelling article. You should definitely check it out.

6. Elizabeth Edwards, wife of John Edwards, wrote a very compelling piece for the New York Times in which she took the media to task. She argues how the analysis from the media has turned to nothing, but Cliff's Notes of the news. I could not have said it better myself.

7. Karl Rove, or as I affectionately call him, Dr. Evil, has decided to offer Sen. Obama some advice. In his article for Newsweek, the architect of the disaster known as the Bush Administration, gives the senator unsolicted advice as to how to right his ship after losses in Pennsylvania and Ohio. I actually found myself agreeing with some of the things that Dr. Evil, I mean Karl Rove had to say. I know it's official now. Hell, is definitely freezing over.

8. Hillary Clinton appears to be getting a little backlash from all the negativity she has been throwing at Barack Obama. A very key fundraiser for her campaign has defected to the Obama camp. Gabriel Guerra-Mondragón cited the fact that he could not see any possible way of Sen. Clinton overtaking Obama for his leaving. Some other supporters said that they felt "She is destroying the Democratic Party". It's all getting very interesting since some of the superdelegates are beginning to weigh in.

9. Finally, I would now like to take this opportunity to welcome author, Trice Hickman, to The Savvy Sista. Trice will be the guest blogger on the site this week. She is the author of Unexpected Interruptions.
Hi There!

My name is Trice Hickman, and I'm the author of Unexpected Interruptions, my debut novel. It's a book about one woman's search for happiness as she embarks upon a journey filled with love, drama, betrayal and secrets! The book also explores social issues such as interracial dating, skin-color bias in the black community, class stratification and friendships/relationships among the sexes...all of which make for pretty interesting discussions!

I'll be blogging with you this week about a variety of interesting topics, and I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts and points of view about each one. So okay, here we go with the first topic....

In Unexpected Interruptions, readers follow the journey of Victoria Small, a smart, savvy sister who finds herself falling for two men--one black, one white, both determined in their pursuit for her affections. As Victoria's relationship heats up with both men, she resurrects a painful secret she thought she'd buried long ago, and finds herself doing things she never thought she'd do!...yes, it gets interesting and steamy!!

Victoria's relationship with both men is complex, and she struggles with her feelings as she tries to make the right choice--because she loves them both. Do you think it's possible for a person to truly be in love with two people at the same time?

Let me know your thoughts!!

Trice Hickman, author of Unexpected Interruptions

Apr 26, 2008

Part 4

Part 5

Part 6

(If you don't feel like going through the different videos you can click here to watch the interview in it's entirety.)
Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Please enjoy these six videos and familiarize yourself with the man through his own words. As I watched this interview last night, it literally brought tears to my eyes. It made me so frustrated that I had to call my mother. When a man like this can be demonized and marginalized in this society it is surely to rattles one's faith. But don't worry my mother and Dr. Wright quickly put things in perspective.

"What the devil meant for evil God meant for good."

(If you don't feel like going through the different videos you can click here to watch the interview in it's entirety.)
Well, my time is up as guest blogger for the week. Thank you for allowing me to share my exciting debut novel with you! I really appreciate each and everyone of you for stopping by and blogging with me.

If you haven't yet, please stop by my website at: www.victoria-wells.com. I have a Spring Fling Contest going on where you can enter to win Dinner and Movie for Two! Be sure to swing by and check it out!

Peace and Blessings,


Apr 25, 2008

Here is the ad that the North Carolina GOP is running against Obama. Now they say that Obama is too extreme for the Tarheel-state, but this is the same state that sent the bigoted racists Jesse Helm to the U.S. Senate. Talk about hypocrisy.


It should be noted that even the Republican presumptive nominee, John McCain, has denounced this ad.

NEW YORK (CNN) -- A judge acquitted three New York Police Department detectives of all charges Friday morning in the shooting death of an unarmed man in a 50-bullet barrage, hours before he was to be married.

1 of 3 Detectives Michael Oliver and Gescard Isnora were found not guilty of charges of manslaughter, assault and reckless endangerment in the death of Sean Bell, 23, and the wounding of two of his friends.

Detective Marc Cooper was acquitted of reckless endangerment.

Justice Arthur Cooperman issued his verdict in the bench trial. There was no jury.

Hundreds of people gathered outside the Queens courthouse in anticipation of the verdict.

The Rev. Al Sharpton called for calm Wednesday. He was accompanied by Bell's fiancee and other supporters on the steps of City Hall.

Bell, 23, was killed just before dawn on his wedding day, November 25, 2006. He and several friends were winding up an all-night bachelor party at the Kalua Club in Queens, a strip club that was under investigation by a NYPD undercover unit looking into complaints of guns, drugs and prostitution.

Undercover detectives were inside the club, and plain-clothes officers were stationed outside.

Witnesses said that about 4 a.m., closing time, as Bell and his friends left the club, an argument broke out. Believing that one of Bell's friends, Joseph Guzman, was going to get a gun from Bell's car, one of the undercover detectives followed the men and called for backup. (Source)

I am just speechless right now. My heart aches for Nicole and the rest of the Bell family. This brings back memories of the Diallo case back in 1999.

I'll post more information when it becomes available.


To read more about the verdict and the outcome following please click here.

On April 17, 2008 I had the pleasure of participating in the Young Women’s Conference Day at Murrell Dobbins Career and Technical High School. I along with other professional women was asked to volunteer a few hours of our morning to speak on the topic: Education…Fuel For Life.

The class I was assigned to was a small group of 12th graders. To break the ice I had each young lady tell me something about themselves and what their plans were for the future. As I listened to each of them share their plans for the future my heart burst with pride. Here was a group of beautiful, young, African American girls living and going to school in the inner city that society had written off. Statistics dictates that these young ladies most likely would have the propensity to be high school dropouts, single mothers, drug addicts or on welfare.

Well, I’m over thrilled to let you all know these young ladies weren’t having it! Each one of them had a road map for their lives that included college in the fall. One young woman’s aspiration is to be a chef. Wouldn’t it be something if one day she aspired to a Master Chef! Fewer than one hundred chefs in this country hold this special certification.

The purpose of my being there was to encourage and inspire the young women by telling them of my journey of becoming a nurse practitioner and an author. I must say that being in their presence renewed my spirit. They encouraged my heart that our youth do have hopes and dreams. That they are willing to strive towards making those hopes and dreams come true, ensuring a brighter future for us all.

When our time was up I was more than happy to present each young lady with an autograph copy of A Special Summer.
***Not all of the students are in photo.

Apr 24, 2008

(CNN) – In Jeremiah Wright's first television interview since clips of his controversial sermons circulated the Internet, Barack Obama's former pastor says his words were unfairly taken out of context for 'devious' reasons.'

In an interview on PBS set to air Friday, Wright expressed frustration with how his sermons had been portrayed by the news media and critics of Obama's White House bid.

“I felt it was unfair,” he told PBS' Bill Moyers according to released excerpts. “I felt it was unjust. I felt it was untrue. I felt that those who were doing that, were doing it for some very devious reasons.”

Some of Wright's past sermons came under fire after a news report turned some of his most contentious comments into a YouTube phenomenon last month. In one, the minister said America had brought the September 11 attacks upon itself. In another, he said Clinton had an advantage over Obama because she is white. He also accused the U.S. government of adopting policies to systematically oppress African-Americans.

Obama immediately rejected the comments, though critics charged the Illinois senator should have denounced the minister long ago. In a widely-praised speech on race relations, Obama said he could no more disown Wright than "I can disown the black community."

Speaking to PBS, Wright did not recant his past sermons. "The persons who have heard the entire sermon understand the communication perfectly," he said.

Wright also called the response to his words "very, very unsettling," and suggested critics were pushing a caricature of him.

"The message that is being communicated by the sound bites is exactly what those pushing those sound bites want to communicate," he said, adding later, “I think they wanted to communicate that I am unpatriotic, that I am un-American, that I am filled with hate speech, that I have a cult at Trinity United Church of Christ — and by the way, guess who goes to his church, hint, hint, hint? That’s what they wanted to communicate.”

Wright also said he has never discussed politics with Obama.

“He goes out as a politician and says what he has to say as a politician. I continue to be a pastor who speaks to the people of God about the things of God.”

Wright's comments come just as the North Carolina Republican Party is set to run a television commercial that points to "controversial figures from Barack Obama's past" and shows clips of the former pastor. Presumptive Republican presidential nominee John McCain has called on the state party not to run the ad.

The Republican National Committee and presumptive GOP nominee John McCain have both asked the North Carolina state party not to run the ad. (Source)

Click here for Obama's reaction to his former pastor's interview.

Wesley Snipes is prison-bound.

The Blade star, 45, was sentenced Thursday to three years behind bars as his punishment for failing to file his tax returns, U.S. District Judge William Terrell Hodges announced in an Ocala, Fla., courtroom.

The actor sat stone-faced – and some people in the courtroom gasped – when the sentence was read. "I'm very sorry for my mistakes and errors. I apologize to my family, the court and the community," Snipes said as his wife looked on. "I've asked the court to show me mercy and the opportunity to make things right."

In February, a federal jury convicted Snipes of three counts of failing to file a tax return (from 1999 through 2001). Thursday he received 12 months for each count. Prosecutors say the actor owes a total of $41 million in taxes, of which he paid $5 at the sentencing.

Several famous names sent in letters of support for Snipes, including Denzel Washington, Woody Harrelson and TV judge Joe Brown. Washington called Snipes a "great oak." Harrelson, who starred with Snipes in Wildcats, wrote, "Wes continues to encourage and challenge me to be the best man I can be by being a constant friend." (Source)
Chapter 5

Immediate disbelief, panic, terror, and then fear overtook Summer as her heart began to wildly pump in her chest. Her first instinct was to slam the door shut, lock it, run, hide, and pray he’d go away.
Nick must have sensed what Summer was thinking, her reaction to him was frightening to say the least. He couldn’t believe how her facial features transformed from one of annoyance to fear within milliseconds. Quickly, he wedged his foot in the doorway and with one strong arm pushed the door open before she could shut it.
With all her might she tried to close the door. But her body and the little life in her womb betrayed her. Her arms suddenly had no strength as she pushed against the door that wouldn’t budge. A sudden sharp kick to the ribs left Summer gasping for air, and releasing her hold on the door sending her awkwardly stumbling backwards.
Stalking forward while simultaneously slamming the door shut with his foot, Nick couldn’t believe his eyes. He had to be seeing an illusion, a vision, or a dream. This can’t be.
Summer jumped and took a step back at the sound of the slamming door. Advancing another step towards her, he wore an incredulous expression as his eyes roamed her from head to toe. He couldn’t believe it. Summer was pregnant! Pregnant!
Retreating back another step, Summer’s mind was racing. Maybe I can make it to my bedroom if I run fast and lock the door and then he’ll leave. Right?
Nick was terrifying with his bulging eyes, flaring nostrils, and pulsating jugulars that were completely consuming him. Never before had he responded to her with such a crazed temperament.
Summer’s mouth suddenly became dry, she wanted to swallow, but could not. Wanted to say something, but no words would form in her brain to leave through her lips. Remembering she didn’t have any clothes on under her robe, self-consciously she gathered the front of the robe near her breasts with one hand.
An evil smirk marred his features. Always the modest one, I guess that changed. Little tramp went and got herself knocked up.
Again, Nick advanced to close the distance between them. As Summer lifted her right foot to take another step back, he barked, “Don’t you dare move another inch, Summer Jackson.”
Startled by his outburst, she let her head drop as the tears she fought to keep sealed behind lids fell one by one.
“I see you’ve been busy, Miss Jackson.”
Nick’s tone was cold and sarcastic as he closed the distance between them. He didn’t care she was crying. He did care however, she’d met someone and gotten pregnant while he could not even look at another woman, let alone bed one.
He continued his insult through clenched teeth. “Didn’t take you long to let some punk crawl between your legs.”

Is Nick's reaction justified? Tell me what you think?
I must admit that this election campaign has been one of extreme highs and extreme lows for me. One of the readers in the last post said that we shouldn't take this thing so personal, but I have to admit that I am guilty of that especially since I am a volunteer and financial supporter of Sen. Obama's campaign (you see I put my money where my mouth is). I agree with her to some extent. I refuse to let John McCain become the President in the Fall so if that means I have to hold my nose and punch the ballot for Hillary than so be it. But I also agree with another reader who said that the reason we take it personal is because it is personal. The political process have some affect on all of us whether directly or indirectly. So you should take it personal. But let's be real, it's hard not to take this thing personal especially when the media and spin masters try to render you stupid. Since Obama's lost in Pennsylvania, the MSM has done nothing but tout Clinton's talking points.

They are questioning his electability nevermind the fact that he has won twice as many states as Sen. Clinton and leads in the delegate count. Never once have they questioned Clinton's electability. She was a double digit front runner for over a year and my guy has been the front runner for only a few months, but no one has questioned th fact that she couldn't seal the deal. How is it that she was leading in all states before Iowa, but now she is in the fight for her life. Maybe there is something wrong with her electability. She is losing on all fronts (but you can't tell her that), but yet she is still telling people that he can't win. Obviously he can win since he is beating you. Oh, but it doesn't stop there.

Now she is doing the unthinkable. She actually have the gall and audacity to report that she has won more in the popular vote than Sen. Obama. Now I must admit that it takes a lot to render me speechless, but this id definitely one of those times your girl was silent with disbelief. Now I know you are wondering, in the words of TheDiva, "How in the Sea Otter Hell?" is something like that possible. Well this is how it is possible. They are including in their calculations the fact that Hillary "won" Florida (a state which none of the candidates campaign in) and Michigan (a state where Obama's name wasn't even on the ballot). Now trust me, I'm not one of those whiny Democrats, but I just can't get over the audacity of some people to actual think we are that stupid to buy into this bull. They want us to believe that the only states that matter are the big states i.e. California, New York, Texas, and Pa whereas the smaller states Wisconsin, Missouri, Minnesota, and all the other countless states Obama has won doesn't matter. They also want us to buy into the fact that if Obama was such a hot candidate he would be able to shut Clinton out. Now a comment like that is laughable because it does a disservice to Sen. Clinton and her candidacy.

You may not like Sen. Clinton, but you have to admit she is a formidable candidate. To say just because Obama is winning he should be able to close her out, doesn't take into account the simple fact that this lady is a machine and she ain't some new chick on the block. Hillary Clinton has spent the vast majority of her adult life involved in politics in some shape, form, or fashion. She knows how to play this "game" better than any. So no, Obama is not just going to be able to shut her out. This is going to be a bitter fight to the end, but in the end Sen. Obama will be a much stronger candidate because of Sen. Clinton. It's best that all his dirt come out in the primary season than in the general election. So in that respect I want to tell Sen. Clinton thank you. Thank you for making my candidate a stronger candidate. You may try to fool me with your spinning, but in the end my man is still winning.

Apr 23, 2008

Today the senate struck down the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act. Now I know you may be wondering how this applies to you, so please bear with me as I try to explain. Women, you definitely need to pay attention to this. Here is a little background on the Lilly Ledbetter legislation that was passed by the House of Representatives:

This legislation clarifies that employment discrimination law should be interpreted the way courts have traditionally understood it – until the Supreme Court ruled in favor of a more restrictive interpretation in the 2007 Ledbetter V. Goodyear Tire & Rubber Co. decision. In this case, the Court ruled that plaintiff Lilly Ledbetter was not eligible for compensation despite years of being paid far less than her male peers and even some male subordinates. According the Court, unlawful discrimination had occurred only when her employer first set the discriminatory pay rate, even though Ledbetter had no way of knowing about it until years later. Under this ruling, since Ledbetter’s employer was able to conceal the discrimination for years and she did not find out about the discrimination until it was too late to file a complaint (within 180 days of the first discriminatory paycheck, according to the Court), she had no legal recourse. By reaffirming that a fresh discrimination offense occurs each time an individual is impacted by a discriminatory practice, including each paycheck that includes unfair compensation, this legislation effectively reverses the Supreme Court’s harmful decision and ensures that people subjected to discrimination in the future will continue to have effective recourse to the law. (Source)

Now here is the actual legislation that was sent to the senate:

The Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act amends the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and other anti-discrimination laws to clarify at which points in time discriminatory actions qualify as an “unlawful employment practice.” According to the legislation, unlawful conduct occurs when: “(1) a discriminatory compensation decision or other practice is adopted; (2) an individual becomes subject to the decision or practice; or (3) an individual is affected by application of the decision or practice, including each time compensation is paid.” The law further states that individuals may receive back pay as compensation for discrimination that occurred up to two years preceding the filing of a charge.

The Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act would have given workers a two years statute of limitations to file their claim of pay discrimination; whereas, it is currently only 180 days. It should be noted that both Sen. Obama and Clinton voted to support this act which did not pass the senate, but the presumptive GOP nominee, John McCain, was a no show. His appearance really would not have matter since he said that he would have voted against the legislation anyway:

"I am all in favor of pay equity for women, but this kind of legislation, as is typical of what's being proposed by my friends on the other side of the aisle, opens us up to lawsuits for all kinds of problems," the expected GOP presidential nominee told reporters. "This is government playing a much, much greater role in the business of a private enterprise system." (Source)

Now you tell me which party is really looking out for the working class people in this country? A John McCain presidency will be nothing but a Bush III. But you know what the amazing thing is, the main people who are hurt by legislation like this are the main ones that are going to vote for the Republicans in the Fall. Once again, it's the Dumbing Down of America. Wake up people. Do your homework. The MSM (mainstream media) is not going to report it. You have to find out for yourself.

Now, let's see how much time the MSM spends on reporting this.
Courtney writes,

Q. I was very interested in your column on The Savvy Sista's website. I just had an idea of a question to throw out there to you that you could answer or maybe post and see what others think. My girlfriends and I talk about it a lot and we would like to get a mature male's opinion as well as other women. Okay, enough background, here it goes: In a relationship what is more important happiness or security? I know they are supposed to go hand in hand but I believe that you must have one before you reach the other. I recently had a debate in one of my classes in which this was the topic. Based on the response of the class and who supported their topic better that was how we determined the "winner" for lack of a better word. In that class I supported security and my opponent, which by the way was a man, supported happiness. The result was undetermined. Can you believe that the class could not decide? So that's why I'm posing this question to you and your readers. Please keep it real because this is a very serious topic and I'm not only talking about financial security but emotional and physical security as well. Well, I think I have given you more than enough to think about so just let me know what you think.

A. Wow!!! Courtney, This one is deep. Ladies, I’m going to let you handle this one. Now, from a man’s point of view I would probably say happiness.

So ladies I want to know what you think on this topic? Holla at ya boy and let me know the real deal from a female's prespective. What's more important in a relationship Happiness or Security?

The Player

People magazine is reporting the dissolution of yet another celebrity marriage. Star Jones-Reynolds has filed for divorce. She and her husband Al Reynolds have been married for approximately four years. In a statement, this is what Jones-Reynolds had to say:

"Several years ago I made an error in judgment by inviting the media into the most intimate area of my life. A month ago I filed for divorce. The dissolution of a marriage is a difficult time in anyone's life that requires privacy with one's thoughts."

The statement concludes as follows: "I have committed myself to handling this situation with dignity and grace and look forward to emerging from this period as a stronger and wiser woman." (Source)

This is a real cute video. It's pretty plays off of a "School Daze" theme. I really like it. Ms. Keys can't do any wrong in my book.

How can a love so perfect... so pure... lead to heartbreak, deceit and betrayal?

As the numbers began to roll in from the Pennsylvania primary, I was NOT upset (I know everyone who knows me thinks I was, but I wasn't. I swear.). Anyone who follows politics as much as I do knew Obama had an uphill battle in a state like Pennsylvania. I think the most honest thing the Clinton campaign has ever said is the fact that in Pennsylvania "you have Philadephia on the east, Pittsburgh on the west, and Alabama in the middle." So knowing all this would lead one to assume that a state like this would be a tough win for Sen. Obama. So the results did not upset me. I was just happy he was able to close a 25 point gap to a 10 point gap.

So once again I want to reiterate the fact that I was not upset by the results, but let me tell you what did piss me off. I was sitting in front of my television watching mainstream media (MSM) when my head began to ache from all the spinning that was going on. They (CNN, MSNBC, my television does not go to Fox News so I won't include them, etc.) was really taking it to my boy. Basically they spent the entire night talking about how he can't win and how he is mortally wounded and on and on. Now correct me if I am wrong, but the last time I checked Sen. Obama has won twice as many contests as Sen Clinton, she cannot catch him in the pledged delegate race, and he leads her in the popular vote. Now, am I missing something? I completely understand why people are turning away from MSM. Watching the pundits in action last night gave me a prime example of why we had such a debacle of a debate last week. The 'so-called' journalists are loving this type of stuff. They are no longer objectional (well they haven't been that in almost a decade). They have no relevance to this country. Instead of focusing on the fact that this country is in an obvious recession and the fact that the present administration admitted that they conducted secret meetings with senior officals in the White House to determine what was torture, they want to focus on Bosnia-gate and Bitter-gate. Instead of zoning in on the candidates policies and how they differ, they basically feed the American people the line that their both the same policy wise and that this election is nothing more than a personality contest. That is a bunch bull. There are some key places where the two candidates differ and healthcare is the main place. It would serve the American people to understand what those differences are and how they affect them. That is the job of the MSM.

So as you can see I am fed-up with the MSM. I've decided that it's best that I seek out the news for myself (which is something I've been doing ever since I started this blog). I don't think I can bear to watch the wool be pulled over this country's eyes again. So I will continue to do what I can with this blog to get information out there to the people that I think is important and that the people need to know.

So tell me, what did you think of the election last night? And if you watched MSM, do you think my assessment was a fair one? What Say Thee...

Apr 22, 2008

As predicted, Hillary Clinton will win Pennsylvania. Now the question is by what margin. She was beating Obama by 26% at one time, but now her lead is by single digits. It is key for Obama to keep it close since the Clinton campaign is having a lot of issues with it's finances.

Robin Roberts, brave and beautiful, remove her wig yesterday on "Good Morning America." Roberts, who was diagnosed with breast cancer a while back, hair has begun to grow back since she finished with chemotherapy and radiation back in January. She explained why she decided to wear a wig:

"For the past six months you've turned on your TV in the morning and have seen me wearing a wig," Roberts said, flanked by Diane Sawyer, Sam Champion and Chris Cuomo.

"I never wanted my appearance to distract from my job of bringing you the news of the day," she said.

"But I knew when my chemo treatments ended in January, my hair would slowly start to grow back.

"I've taken my cue from people here and from viewers, especially [cancer] survivors . . . who said, 'When it's time to literally flip your wig, you'll know,' " Roberts said. "I am not my hair," she said, quoting from the song by India.Arie. "I am the soul that lies within and that's it - no more wig. That's it." Roberts will auction her wig to raise money for a charity that helps "those who don't have insurance and can't afford this." (Source)

Deion and Pilar gives tips to keep a marriage going. This beautiful couple has been married 9 years which is an eternity for a celebrity couple. The tips they give are actually pretty good. (Source)

This made for a very interesting interview.

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Black Love is a strong love...a solid love...an unmovable love. When I think of black love, I think of freedom. The freedom that allows us to love unconditionally. It's a love that is sensual, passionate, all consuming, never assuming, repentant, and redemptive. Black Love is the joy you feel when you snuggle a newborn babe for the first time and inhale its sweet innocence. It's the kind of love that transforms a shy, timid woman into a fierce lioness when there is an inkling of a threat to her cub. It's this same love that raises up the warrior in every man to protect and defend his most prized possessions...his woman and children.Black Love is never being able to get enough of the one you love. It's that tingle, that shiver you get when your love kisses that secret spot that drives you insane. It's the pulsating rhythm in your hidden treasure every time he gives you that lingering seductive gaze letting you know you're his entire universe.Noir Amour is you... Noir Amour is Me

What is your Noir Amour?

Apr 21, 2008

Chantel S. wrote:

Q. What's up ThePlayer? I have really enjoyed reading ThePlayer's Corner. I have a little question for you and I was hoping you can provide me with an honest answer. I was wondering why so many men are complaining about women only wanting them for their money? They say they are so sick of the gold diggers, but yet it is them that is constantly throwing their money in the faces of these women. They are constantly talking about their money. They are very flashy and let's not forget how a lot of them try to "make it rain" in the club. The first impression they give to a lot of women is something dealing with their money. Maybe this is insecurity on their part because they feel that if the woman knew the real them she wouldn't like them. I'm just sick and tired of men playing the victim in this whole gold digging thing. A woman can't dig your gold unles you first gave her permission to pick up the shovel.

Chantel S.

A. Chantel, look, you’ve basically answered your own question. See, for some odd reason, men are having a hard time understanding that sistas these days have and own their own stuff. A lot of (self-governing)sistas find that a brother throwing the loot around is a big turn off (believe it or not). A man throwing his money around is a sign of an insecure man. A lot of brothers don't understand this, but a lot of women aren't making it easy for them to understand it. You see you have your typical gold diggers that make it hard for the average woman to be seen as anything more. These women lurk around the clubs, NBA games, NFL games, etc. just hoping to come up on some money. In my experiences, gold diggers are women who are solely dependent on a man (or in some instances men). Everything they own is something that was given to them by a man.

Now, let's not act as though women don't shy away from broke Negroes. Trust me, I’m not knocking the bruthas that’s not economically well off, but it's just a fact that most women want an established man. Now, me personally, I want an established woman. See, if you can’t pay your own bills, buy your own drink in the club, or do for yourself then I can't holler at you. ThePlayer likes assets and not liabilities. So, Chantel, I do feel your concerns. Brothers need to learn how to make passionate love to the minds of our beautiful black women instead of making it rain in the club. PERIOD.


*** The views expressed by ThePlayer does not reflect the views of The Savvy Sista. ThePlayer will be answering your questions every Monday and Wednesday. He can be reached at theicon.misssavvy@gmail.com.

Film-maker, Michael Moore, wrote a very compelling piece on why voters in Pennsylvania should cast their ballots for Barack Obama. Here is some of highlights from his piece:

On decency and Dr. Jeremiah Wright:

Finally, I want to say a word about the basic decency I have seen in Mr. Obama. Mrs. Clinton continues to throw the Rev. Wright up in his face as part of her mission to keep stoking the fears of White America. Every time she does this I shout at the TV, "Say it, Obama! Say that when she and her husband were having marital difficulties regarding Monica Lewinsky, who did she and Bill bring to the White House for 'spiritual counseling?' THE REVEREND JEREMIAH WRIGHT!"

But no, Obama won't throw that at her. It wouldn't be right. It wouldn't be decent. She's been through enough hurt. And so he remains silent and takes the mud she throws in his face.

On the smear tactics of the Clintons:

Well, that sounded good last year, but over the past two months, the actions and words of Hillary Clinton have gone from being merely disappointing to downright disgusting. I guess the debate last week was the final straw. I've watched Senator Clinton and her husband play this game of appealing to the worst side of white people, but last Wednesday, when she hurled the name "Farrakhan" out of nowhere, well that's when the silly season came to an early end for me. She said the "F" word to scare white people, pure and simple. Of course, Obama has no connection to Farrakhan. But, according to Senator Clinton, Obama's pastor does -- AND the "church bulletin" once included a Los Angeles Times op-ed from some guy with Hamas! No, not the church bulletin!

This sleazy attempt to smear Obama was brilliantly explained the following night by Stephen Colbert. He pointed out that if Obama is supported by Ted Kennedy, who is Catholic, and the Catholic Church is led by a Pope who was in the Hitler Youth, that can mean only one thing: OBAMA LOVES HITLER!

On why he's supporting Obama:

There are those who say Obama isn't ready, or he's voted wrong on this or that. But that's looking at the trees and not the forest. What we are witnessing is not just a candidate but a profound, massive public movement for change. My endorsement is more for Obama The Movement than it is for Obama the candidate.

That is not to take anything away from this exceptional man. But what's going on is bigger than him at this point, and that's a good thing for the country. Because, when he wins in November, that Obama Movement is going to have to stay alert and active. Corporate America is not going to give up their hold on our government just because we say so. President Obama is going to need a nation of millions to stand behind him.

Click here to read the article in it's entirety.

Even though it was a brilliant July morning with birds singing their melodies, the sweet smell of honeysuckle drawing bees to their nectar, Summer’s eyes stung from the tears threatening to escape as she peered out of her bathroom window.

“Oh, no, this can’t be true. It’s not true.” Summer whispered to herself as her hand shook uncontrollably. Trying to convince herself she was hallucinating, Summer closed her eyes tight then reopened them again focusing on the bathroom vanity. There was no mistaking, the home pregnancy test strip screamed in her face a big, fat, pink, positive sign. It was confirmed. Summer Jackson was pregnant. A baby. What am I going to do?

A wave of nausea swept through her so fast she barely had time to jump up off the toilet to lift the lid to empty the contents of her stomach, which she had just consumed twenty minutes earlier. Summer flushed the toilet then staggered to the sink, rinsed her mouth, splashed cool water on her face and patted it dry with a hand towel. Slowly she sat on the floor, pulled her knees to her chest and wrapped her arms around them. Rocking back and forth, she stared at the ceiling as tears spilled down her face. Her right temple pounded as she remembered the last time she’d been with Nicholas ‘Nick’ Stiles.

Summer believed the evening would end as usual; they would go back to his place for some serious loving. Over the past few months of their relationship, she found herself helplessly falling in love with him. Tonight was the night she would confess her love to him. Nick was her everything, all she wanted in a man. He had been the one she had given her virginity to without hesitation.

Instead of confessing her love, Summer sat stunned in a dark car in front of her townhouse as Nick told her he was leaving in two weeks for several months to set up a new division of a trucking company, one of many business enterprises. “Summer, it’s best if we don’t see each other after tonight.” Nick’s tone had been cold and distant.

Summer sensed that Nick had been distant all evening, but she never expected him to drop a bomb such as ending their relationship. From where she stood, everything was fine. Struggling to control her voice, Summer wanted to know, “Best for who Nick?”
Becoming irritated, Nick responded harshly. “Look, Summer, I told you from the door that my work comes first. That I’m not into long-term relationships, let alone long distance ones. I thought you understood, when it’s over, it’s over.”

Nick’s words had been so cold, so blunt, Summer winced with every syllable. She had understood what he’d said, however, his actions told her something different. They told her that he’d changed his mind about having a long-term relationship especially since they had exclusively been seeing each other for nearly a year.

Without saying another word, Summer grabbed her purse that had fallen to the floor and exited his vehicle. Once inside her townhouse she leaned against the door and slid to the floor before bursting into tears. One month later, here she was again, on the floor crying. This time because she was carrying a baby belonging to a man that no longer had any use for her, let alone a baby.
Summer knew what she had to do. First thing Monday morning she was calling her gynecologist’s office to schedule an abortion.

Have you ever been in Summer's situation?

What would you do in Summer's situation?

I know you saw the title and wonder what in the world is this chick talking about, but trust me I could not make this stuff up. This a video that someone made to prove that Oprah is working for Satan because of the New Age things in which she is doing on her show. Tell me what you think?

Apr 20, 2008

Actress Tia Mowry married actor Cory Hardrict on Sunday, her rep David Lust tells PEOPLE exclusively.

The two were married at the Four Seasons Resort the Biltmore Santa Barbara in front of 170 guests. Mowry walked down the aisle to a live performance by R&B singer Kenny Lattimore, who sang "For You."

"You can tell they're really in love," says wedding planner Robyn Goldberg of the newlyweds. "[Hardrict] wanted the wedding to be her dream come true."

Mowry, 29, who starred with twin sister Tamera on the WB series Sister, Sister and is now on the CW comedy The Game, wore a couture wedding gown by Kevan Hall. Tamera, who wore an aubergine gown by Tadashi, served as maid of honor.

The 30-minute outdoor ceremony was followed by a Midsummer Night Dream-style reception in the hotel's ballroom. Florist Jennifer Katz of Fiori Design created tall iron centerpieces covered in moss and decorated with flowers in different shades of pink. The wedding cake was a four-tiered vanilla and red velvet cake by Cake Divas. Guests danced to the tunes of DJ Michael Hayes.

Mowry and Hardrict, 28, were engaged on Christmas Day, 2006. (Source)

Congratulations to the happy couple. Now can someone please tell me when Melanie and Derwin are going to get back together on 'The Game'? I just love that show.

Victoria Wells is a Philadelphia native. She has been an avid reader since childhood. Wells’ interest in writing took root while taking a creative writing course in college. Her most memorable assignment was the rewriting of the last chapter of The Color Purple. Though she did very well in this course it would be years before she would pen a novel.

Professionally, Wells (Gaye Riddick-Burden) earned a Bachelor’s and a Master’s degree in Nursing from La Salle University. Over her seventeen-year career as a nurse, Wells (Riddick-Burden) has written, lectured, and presented at national conferences extensively on sickle cell disease. Her dedication to caring for patients with this disease earned her the Regional and National 2005 Nursing Spectrum’s Nurse of the Year Nursing Excellence Award in Clinical Care. Nursing Spectrum wrote, “Riddick-Burden is a strong advocate for patients with sickle cell disease. She was instrumental in designing and implementing the outpatient Sickle Cell Day Treatment Unit for these often underserved patients. The program is driven by Riddick-Burden’s desire to provide timely and effective care to patients with sickle cell crisis ― decreasing long waits in the ED and avoiding inpatient stays that separates patients from their families.”

Wells’ dedication to the nursing profession and work in the African American community organizing and running a free Hypertension Clinic at her church, Refuge Evangelical Baptist Church earned her another award. On March 19, 2006, Wells was awarded the Movers and Shakers Award presented by the American Women’s Heritage Society, National Association of University Women, National Association of Phi Delta Kappa, Top Ladies of Distinction and Two Thousand African American Women. At this ceremony the City Council of Philadelphia also presented her with a Citation.

Using writing as a tool to escape the hassles and worries of everyday life, Wells decided to pen a novel. In November 2006 she released her self-published debut romance novel, A Special Summer. After receiving positive feedback and believing her story portrayed strong, intelligent, self-sufficient African American characters dealing with and working through relationship issues, Wells decided to submit her manuscript for traditional publishing. In August 2007, Xpress Yourself Publishing made an offer to re-release A Special Summer, March 4, 2008.

Wells works as an adult nurse practitioner. She is married and the proud mom of three children.

Website: www.victoria-wells.com

Click here to purchase her latest book A Special Summer.
I am excited to share my debut novel, A Special Summer with you. First let me begin by telling you I am thrilled to be a guest blogger on Savvy Sista! As an avid reader of romance my desire is to get to know those of you who love romance novels just as much as I do. And for those of you who are not into to romance…hopefully by the end of the week you’ll become a lover of romance too! I’m looking forward to interacting with each and every one of you!


In love with the man of her dreams, Summer Jackson’s world is perfect bliss...so she thought. Devastation rocks her very existence when handsome Nick Stiles walks out on her, leaving her to put the shattered pieces of her life back together again.

Months later, out of the blue, Nick reappears and is in for the shock of his life! A love that once was so pure is plagued by heartbreak, deceit and betrayal. Will Summer and Nick find true love again?

Everybody I know is talking about sex. If they are not talking about how much they are getting then they are talking about how much they are not getting. There was an article published on WebMD.com that named 237 reasons why people have sex. So taking a cue from that article I wanted to learn why do people have sex.

The study conducted in the WebMD.com article was conducted by Cindy Meston, PhD, and David Buss, PhD, of the psychology department at the University of Texas at Austin.

They asked 203 men and 241 women aged 17-52 in Austin, Texas, to anonymously list every reason they had ever had sex. Those men and women were taking psychology classes or were participating in other studies at the Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory of the University of Texas.

What they came up with from their study was 237 reasons why people have sex. Here are the top 10 reasons they found out that people have sex broken down by gender:

Here are women's top 10 reasons for having sex:

1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. It's fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was "in the heat of the moment."

Top 10 Reasons Why Men Have Sex
In the study, men's top 10 reasons for having sex are quite similar to the women's list. Here are men's top 10 reasons for having sex, according to the study:

1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
4. It's fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner. (Source)

So do you agree or disagree with this list? What are the primary reasons why you engage in sexual activities, and do you believe women can engage in casual sex as easily as men or are they fooling themselves? And is sex really as casual to men as they make it appear to be? What Say Thee...