"All my life I've only brought sisters home to meet my family, but my ex-girlfriend who I dated for three years happened to be Native American and German. When I brought her home, my mother and family embraced her. Last November, we lost our baby and she sacrificed a lot because her family pretty much disowned her because she was dating me, and in the end it didn't work out. But, just because I happened to date outside of my race, it doesn't mean I'm running away from sisters. I have a younger sister who I think is perfect—beautiful and educated. What I think sisters need to understand is that a real brother like myself knows that no one can compare to a sister. We're not sitting around with the boys and when a sister walks by, thinking, "I love that sister across the street, but I'm going to go and holler at this White girl." I consider myself a real brother, and there's nothing more that I appreciate than the swag and sway in a Black woman's security—that is just a little untouchable.
And just to clarify: there's a difference between a Black woman and a sister. President Barack Obama has a sister as his First Lady, and I love him for that. The difference is that a sister understands that she has insecurities, but has the courage and strength to say let's be proactive and continue our African-American sisterhood by not moonwalking backwards, but moving forward by staying empowered. So if there's a brother on the block who ain't checking for her she realizes what side of the block he's walking on and whether or not he's the good brother that God would send to allow her to be a good woman. A Black woman won't be able to make that distinction because she's searching for all the wrong things.
Aug 24, 2009
Posted By:Savvy Sista | At:8:46 AM
So, what do you ladies think about what Mr. Hardwick had to say? I know you all have an opinion on the subject matter. And, can someone please break down the 'Sister vs. Black Woman' comparison. I didn't get it. I need someone to elaborate for me because I don't know where the brother was trying to go with that one.