Feb 28, 2011

Recent;y, Tom Joyner took to BlackAmericaWeb.com to pen an open letter to his fellow Omega Psi Phi brother, Steve Harvey, to apologize for having Steve's ex-wife Mary on his show to air her grievances with Steve. 
Here is what Tom wrote:


I was thinking about coming on your show to apologize for having your ex-wife, Mary, on the TJMS, but I knew that would upset at least 60 of the 106 radio stations that carry the show. So, I hope this letter/blog will do. At some point soon, I hope we can get together to hug it up. We are Omega men, where "friendship is essential to the soul." We are Q Psi Phi 'til the day we die! I feel a hop coming on. Give me some "Atomic Dog" right here.

I realize now that I made a big mistake. I heard it from everyone  - from high-ranking political icons to Huggy Lowdown. Male, female, old, young, black, white ... almost no one thought it was the right thing to do.

I honestly thought I could be "black 'Dr.Phil.'" I really hated to see you two become fodder for mainstream media. If you heard  the interview I conducted with Mary, then you know, I didn't bring her on to - nor did I allow her to  - trash you. Yes, she had negative things to say, but nothing that she hadn't already said publicly or that you hadn't already publicly denied. What I didn't anticipate - and  should have - was how much of what was said apparently had no truth to it. You tried to tell me, but I thought if I stayed neutral, I could allow Mary to at least represent her side.

Knowing that a large number of our female audience could relate to being divorced and angry about things not turning out they way they thought they would, I ultimately thought having her on would be good for everyone — well, maybe not necessarily you, but I sure wasn't doing it to hurt you in any way. And it didn't hurt you. It pissed you off - rightfully so - but it didn't hurt you.

So, will I promise that I will never have Mary on the show again? Can't promise that. What I will promise is that I know my limitations. I'm over trying to be a counselor, therapist or life coach. I'm back to being a DJ ... and a frat.



  1. I don't get it!

    Why is he apologizing?

  2. This just doesn't ring true. If he felt that bad he would have never had her on the show. I think he did it because he knows Steve is in the wrong.