May 16, 2011

I have to admit this one breaks my heart a little bit because I've had the biggest crush on Don for sometime now.  I'm proud of him for accepting his truth and living life on his terms, but I'll be lying if I didn't say on the inside I'm still screaming, "Damn, damn, damn..."
Don Lemon opened up to NY Times about his new book, Transparent, in which he discussed his career and his life.  In the book he reveals the fact that he is a gay man.  Here is what  he had to say about the reason why he chose to come out now:
So why do it? It really came down to the act of writing the book. Mr. Lemon said he had been on a panel a couple of years ago called "The Black Man in the Age of Obama," and was approached afterward by a publisher's representative about writing an inspirational book.

"It was supposed to be a little pamphlet," he said. "You know: say your prayers; have a good, hearty handshake; say good morning to your boss."

But as he began to write, he came to realize that he could not hold back the truth of who he was. He started to pour out the details of his personal life. How he had grown up not knowing his father, how he had suffered abuse by someone close to him.

He is also very much aware of the stigma that being a black gay man carries especially in the African American community and he expressed his thoughts on it:

"It's quite different for an African-American male," he said. "It's about the worst thing you can be in black culture. You're taught you have to be a man; you have to be masculine. In the black community they think you can pray the gay away." He said he believed the negative reaction to male homosexuality had to do with the history of discrimination that still affects many black Americans, as well as the attitudes of some black women.

"You're afraid that black women will say the same things they do about how black men should be dating black women." He added, "I guess this makes me a double minority now."

Don also expressed how he feels about how other people coming out could have a positive affect on teenagers dealing with their own sexuality as well as bullying:

"I think it would be great if everybody could be out," he said. "But it's such a personal choice. People have to do it at their own speed. I respect that. I do have to say that the more people who come out, the better it is for everyone, certainly for the Tyler Clementis of the world."

"I think if I had seen more people like me who are out and proud, it wouldn't have taken me 45 years to say it," Mr. Lemon said, "to walk in the truth."



  1. i just don't understand why he had to "come out." afterall, everyone knew he had some sugar in his tank, and if they didn't, i don't know why. to me, it just makes him look all the more insecure about who he is. afterall, his co-worker, anderson cooper, who everyone knows is gay, refuses to "come out." anderson's mindset is that he is on cnn to deliver a product (news) to the public, and that, he does not need to address his sexuality. don should have stayed in the "closet" because as of late, he's making a mess out of himself. just sayin....

  2. Black men are an endangered species; because of history, their women have had to take on the roles of breadwinner and "father" to the kids. So they are very insecure about themselves and their masculinity. No wonder a gay man in that community would provoke an outrage. To quote the Boondocks: "you kiddin? Im white. Hahaha..."