Aug 9, 2011

With the statistics of black women remaining single reaching staggering numbers, there seems to be a push for black women to broaden their horizons as far as their dating prospects are concerned.  But for some reason, the broadening of their horizons seems to only go in the direction of white men.  You see it on all the websites and magazines that are targeting black women.  Even mainstream publications are taking a stab at it.  Recently, author Ralph Richard Banks wrote an article for the Wall Street Journal entitled An Interracial Fix for Black Marriage.  Banks made a lot of good points in his article, but this strong push for black women to go white is still interesting to me. 
Aren't there more men on the planet than black and white?  Why is it that this interracial dating push that's targeting black women only points to white men as an alternative to having a black man?  Maybe one of the problems in why a lot of black women are finding themselves single is because they limiting themselves culturally when it comes to black men?  There are plenty of black men on the planet in different countries from all types of backgrounds.  Sure it would be great to be with an African American man, but please don't sleep on those brothers over in France and England.  I mean seriously, what's hotter than a man with an accent?
I just think if black women are going to broaden their horizons then they should broaden all of their horizons and that includes traveling internationally.  If you feel the dating pool you are in is small than find a new one.  I know these things sound simple, but they are what have worked for me.  I have met and been entertained by some of the most fascinating men from all over the world whether they were Nigerian or British.  Men are men no matter where they come from.   
I just figure that as long as people are single, we are going to continue to have these debates.  People are always looking for an easy fix to some of life's toughest questions.  As long as someone comes up with a solution that the masses deem reasonable, they'll continue to make money off of someone else's misery.  Right now the push is for black women to date white men.  Who knows what the solution is going to be tomorrow.  My only advice is to do what makes you happy and continue to live in your own truth whether that is with a white man or by yourself.  Stop allowing people to make you feel bad about your situation and keep living. 


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