Mar 18, 2012

My heart truly goes out to the family of Trayvon Martin. What happened to this young man is truly a tragedy and another blood stain on the sword of 'Lady Justice'.

What Trayvon represents for me personally is my newphews DeMarcus, Raekwon, Reginal, Tyler, Kani, and Jaelyn. And when listening to the 911 calls the only thing I could think about was them.

I can't imagine if it was one of my babies that was yelling for help just before a damn vigilante, cop wannabe puts a bullet in their chest. Lord have mercy! Just the thought alone has me crying and mad as hell. The whole thing is just tragic on so many levels.

The death of Trayvon is a nightmare realized for every black parent of a male child. Black parents are always trying to teach their sons about how to conduct themselves when it comes to police officers and other people of authority so that when the time comes that they are confronted by one of these people (trust me the time will come) they don't look 'suspicious'. Sometimes their teachings are not enough because just the simple fact that their child is black is enough to garner them the look of suspicision, but never the less it's imperative that black parents keep trying.

This is the black boy's burden.

Black boys are just like any other child. They don't have the life experience to truly develop and harness a spirit of discernment when it comes to life's lessons, but yet they are expected to navigate life's treacherous waters as though they are veterans of the plight of Africans in America.

The simple fact of their births puts a target on their head. They are much more likely to be killed by someone that looks just like them then any other race in the country. They are the raw material which is needed to continue the process which is America's Prison Industrial Complex.

Black boys in this country carry a burden unlike anything we could imagine. For those of us who love them, the only thing we can try and do is shelter them from the reality of their burden until we have no choice but to tell them the truth. We realize we can't protect them the way we wish we could and nothing was more evident of that than what happened to Trayvon Martin. It just goes to show that a black boy can be killed and no one will be arrested.

They always say you are supposed to cry when a baby comes into the world and rejoice upon a person's death because they are going home to be with the Lord. I guess you should be distraught at the birth of a male black child because given what they are about to face in this world it's almost too much to bear.


  1. I agree! This wasnt a boy that was "up to no good" as he say! This was a racist hateful man who has no heart! This young man was simply walking up the the street when this cold hearted creep followed him and shot him! I just dont understand how people can still feel that way about our kind! I literally cried when i heard that shocking 911 call! The police arent doing their job i bet if it was a black man that shot a white boy he wouldve been locked up at the blink of an eye! It so wrong! Racism still exists!

  2. At Anonymous - yes he was!

  3. Trayron's killing affects me on so many levels, because he could have been my son or grandson, the past killings of young Black males like Oscar Grant, who begged transit cop not to shoot him while he laid on the ground in 2009, to my own personal dealings with people in positions who carry guns. Since I moved to Virginia 22 years ago, I've been stopped 24 times by city police. The last was a year and half ago as I waked from the beach in the predominantly white community where I live. Their reason for stopping me was I crossed the street. One week before I was stopped and ID by campus police at the predominantly white university where I work in the library's technical services for 20 years. This was the 6 time I was stopped, ID, or questioned why I was in the building. The reason I stated this is because at 52, 6 feet tall and dark-skinned, I'm considered a treat or up to no good just as the George Zimmerman told the police over the phone about Trayvon as he followed him before confronting him and standing over him and shooting the 17 year old in the chest. This is only my opinion, but I believe B and C were his chief reasons for shooting Trayvon. Also, I think to some people some Black males are not valued and can be genocide. Again thank you for this post it is helping me deal with Trayvon's death.

  4. I have read dozens of posts similar to yours during the last few days; and while I do realize that incidents like this stir up very strong emotions, I really wish people would make at least a small effort to put things in perspective.

    Since 1976, according to the US Department of Justice (link:, 86% of all white murder victims were killed by whites, and 94% of all black murder victims were killed by blacks.

    I can appreciate that most black Americans feel that racism is still a very strong force which impacts their lives, but the simple FACT is that it is very rare these days, statistically, for a black person to be killed by a white person -- period. And that is a good thing!

  5. If you think the reason people are outraged by the murder of Trayvon Martin is because it came at the hands of a white man you are sadly mistaken and uninformed. Besides people being angry at the fact that this young man is dead for simply walking while black, it is the fact that the police didn't think he deserve any justice and automatically believed the perpetrator. It is the lack of concern for black life that has people pissed off. I don't give a damn if the perpetrator was white or black, at the end of the day people have no concern for black life and that's a fact. So you can quote your statistics all you want, but at the end of the day a child is dead and the police of Sanford, Fl didn't give a damn because the victim was black.

  6. The police take the oath to protect and serve, and it seems like the protection and the serving always goes toward the other person(s) when it comes to Black Boys. Then when Black Boys run from the police or have no regard for the police they are looked at as criminals; white folks especially have no clue as to what is going on in the mind of a Black Boy, and that would be, that they know they have no chance of winning when dealing with the police, because the police in their minds are not there to protect and serve them. Case and Point as to what happen in this case and so many others like it.

  7. I'm a white woman with three grown bi-racial sons. The Martin family is living my worst nightmare and biggest fear. I can't even imagine having to deal with the injustice and insult in addition to their grief.

    A few years ago, late at night on New Years Eve my cellphone rang and caller ID showed it was my oldest son calling. When I answered no one was there but I could hear movement, voices and shouting in the background. I started screaming my sons name into the phone, terrified that he'd found himself in a situation with either a street thug or a cop. (Cause I don't think there's much difference in the potential outcome.) After a few seconds of terror I heard the very distinctive laugh of my middle sons wife. My two older sons and their wives were together playing WII boxing and his phone had "butt dialed" me. My relief was so great, and my fear just a moment before had been so large that I just started crying in relief and gratitude.

    A few days later I was recounting this story to a white co-worker, herself a mother with a son, and not a racist in any way. But, she was a little confused by my reaction to the call and thought I might have "over-reacted". We talked about how middle of the night calls make her fear - "car accident"- pop into her head, as opposed to my fear - shot.

    It happened to be the same New Years Eve that Oscar Grant, Robert Tolan and Adolph Grimes were all shot by police in different American cities. When I talked to my friend again and pointed out these shootings I saw that she finally "got it".

    And God forgive me for saying it out loud and in public but I'm so terribly grateful to have granddaughters now rather than grandsons. The idea of watching another generation of my loved ones go out into the world with my heart in my throat...

  8. I am so hurt by this hole situation. I cried when i heard the 911 calls too. Coming from a family with a white step dad and my African american mother i did not see racism growing up, but when i got married to my husband who is a African american i see it way too often with police officers, judges and other people in power in my community. It was a big culture shock for me at first and i refused to believe that racism was so alive were i lived. Because i love people of all colors and was raised that way. Well we have been married for 11 years now and i have seen racism towards my husband (who is a good God fearing man) played out for by white males in power over a dozen times. It makes me question our legal system and lose faith in it. We have 3 sons and i am questioning what kind of world do they have to look forward too. Will change please come quick, hasn't it been long enough.