Aug 8, 2012

Lord knows I try to avoid any topic related to Kanye West and Kim Kardashian like the plague.  I mean there is no point in giving these media whores any more undue attention than they already get.  But even I couldn’t ignore the TMZ email I received confirming that Kim Kardashian was ‘honored’ to be called Kanye’s ‘Perfect Bitch’.
Now don’t get me wrong, none of this is surprising.  Of course, Kim would be ‘honored’ to be Mr. West’s ‘Perfect Bitch’.  She, like many females, considers such a claim to be a compliment.  This notion just seems to be the way of the world these days.
Maybe I’m getting old because there is no way a man referring to me as a bitch is ever deemed complimentary in my eyes. 
I remember being in the club and a guy walked up to me with a smile on his face.  He was really attractive and so I was very receptive to him until he leaned over and told me “I was the baddest bitch in the club.”
Excuse me.
So after I proceeded to let him know that I was nobody’s bitch, he looked at me like I was the problem.
“My bad, Lil Mama, I was just trying to let you know how good you look.” He said before turning and walking away.
It was at that moment that a little self doubt crept into my mind.  Maybe I was too hard on him?  The only thing he was trying to do was give me a compliment and I jumped all over him.  Maybe I don’t know how to take a compliment?  But just as soon as those thoughts entered my mind, they were replaced by my mother’s voice reminding me that I am the one who teaches people how to treat me.
If he calls you a bitch in the beginning, don’t act surprised when he calls you a bitch throughout the relationship.  If being called a bitch is something you deemed acceptable in your relationship then more power to you, but it’s unacceptable to me.
There are many ways in which a man can compliment a lady without having to refer to her as a bitch.  Men need to learn how to properly compliment a woman and women need to learn what a compliment is and vice versa.
Lord, let me step off this soapbox since I feel myself becoming preachy.  Now pass the plate so I can continue increasing my ‘Building Fund’.


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