Apr 24, 2013

Here we go with another Savvy Sista Rant!

I don't know what it is about people and their incessant need to touch black women hair.  What the hell makes you think you have the right to put your hands in my hair?  First of all, I don't know where your nasty hands have been and second that is some rude ish to even think you and I are cool enough to even let you go anywhere near my hair.  Hell even men I've been in a relationship with knew better than to venture near my hair and hell I was intimate with them.


What got me so upset about this is the fact that ESPN anchor Sage Steele was interviewing UFC fighter Chael Sonnen when out of nowhere the fighter asked to touch her beautiful natural tresses.

“I love your hair,” Sonnen said he leaned in to rub the top of Steele’s head. “That’s real hair people and it’s very soft, I might add.”

Steele, being the consummate professional that she is, realize she was on live television and obliged the awkward request with a laugh.

She's a better woman than me because I swear I probably would have forgot I was on TV and gave him the sista girl look of "I wish your ass would..." (maybe that's why I'm not on television now...LOL!).

Sonnen may have been joking when he did it, but trust it's no joking matter.  This is something that a lot of black women have to contend with on a regular basis especially if they work or live in an environment in which they are the obvious minority.

I can't tell you how many times someone has had the audacity to ask me to touch my hair, especially after I decided to wear it in its natural state (most of the time your girl rocks a sew-in because I didn't get the hair gene like my mother and sisters).

Don't get me wrong the people are very complimentary while they're trying to pet and prod you like a dog (at least that's how it feels).  So after a few, 'I don't think so,' the people around me seem to get the message.  It's not polite to ask to touch anyone's hair especially a black woman.  Keep your hands to yourself.

Have you ever been asked the "Can I touch your hair" question?  If so, how did you handle the situation.



  1. He was very much rude in general in trying to take over the interview. Asking to touch her hair was totally random and no doubt embarrassing for her. Had she snapped at him or even politely said no, she would have been look at as a bitch.

    I can't recall anyone asking to specifically touch my hair. I've been asked about my hair many times. If I do not flat iron it, then I get quite a few more questions than I normally do. One time I wore it completely straight and my white supervisor at the time asked me was it my hair. I wasn't offended as we had discussed black hair before. But I was taken back that her first thought was that it wasn't my natural hair.

    I don't like the idea of being petted and looked at like some exotic creature. And that's how this guy acted with Sage Steele.

  2. Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.

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