Yesterday, Oprah reminded me why I loved her iconic talk show so much. She will go places that a lot of people will not and when she goes there she treats that place with such empathy and understanding it makes everyone comfortable.
Oprah presented a special 2-hour presentation of her 'Lifeclass' series that only focused on 'Fatherless Sons.' It was a show she could do an entire series on. I seriously think she should consider giving the brother, Roland Warren, a show of his own in which he deals with nothing but 'Fatherless Sons.'
As a girl who grew up without a father, I could totally relate to what those men were going through. But as a woman, I also realize there is a major difference between a girl growing up without a father and a boy growing up without one. As a woman, I have the vocabulary to vocalize what I feel about not having a father in my life. Women are given allowance to tap into their emotions, but men are not given the same liberty. Anytime a man tries to tap into his emotions or voice his pain we immediately question his manhood. This treatment of them starts when they are boys. If a boy cries we immediately refer to them as a 'cry baby' or tell them they're acting like a 'girl.' How many of us are guilty of this? Some of us don't even realize how damaging our treatment of our boys really is.
I don't want to pretend that a girl growing up without a father is not just as damaging, but there is an epidemic plaguing our young boys that starts at the absence of their father. So many of our sons are acquiring the burden of being the reason as to why their fathers are not in the home. On last night's show, Iyanla Vanzant was trying to get across to the men that their father's absence has absolutely nothing to do with them, but everything to do with him.
There is a lot of work that need to be done, but I think last night's show was a wonderful start.
Don't forget to tune in next week when she talks to single mother raising sons.
Did you watch the show? What did you think?
Here are some of my other favorite quotes from last night show: